For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands.
I heard it said one time, “A woman can make or break a man”. Another axiom among modern feminists is that, “Well-behaved women rarely make history”. There is truth to that looking at some of the female heroes that populate the Biblical narrative.
Pharaoh sees the Hebrew population getting too numerous. He enslaves them and decrees, “All male new-born must die.” In spite of all this, the Hebrew population continues growing. Sages tell a legend explaining the conundrum. They said that each day, as Hebrew wives would bring food and refreshments to their husbands, they would also wash and attire themselves all pretty, ready to have relations with them in the fields. They would go to their men with words and encouragement and comfort. The men despaired under the weight of Pharaoh’s decree, but through their initiative, Hebrew women nursed a little flames of faith that eventually turned into the fire that destroyed even almighty Egypt (b.Sotah 11b).
God knew His creation when He said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him (Genesis 2:18)”. The Hebrew text literally says, “I will make him a woman to be against him”. The idea is of balance. It is another way of saying, “Behind every great man there is a great woman!”
Truly, a woman ‘makes’ a man by balancing him. She gives him wise and fit advice, encouraging him when he is down and confused, reminding him of his divine earthly responsibilities. This helps him to properly focus and balance his life between dream and reality. On the other hand, she ‘breaks’ him by stealing his focus away from his divine dream, and towards herself. A woman destroys her man also when she nags him for his weaknesses or to the opposite, she fans him so he gets unduly lifted up in pride and sees himself as the focus of everything.
The afore-mentioned legend about the women of the Exodus provides our women today with a good role model. At times when men feel crushed under the weight of their responsibilities, they need the intuitive and bracing care of their life-long partner working side-by-side with them to counter-act Pharaoh’s ungodly edicts. It is also two brave women who feared God above Pharaoh who refused to kill the Hebrew babies (Exodus 1:17-20).
Even so today, our modern world has created a society where the weight of spiritual confusion is crushing. This often lures men into being discouraged and eventually distracted away from their spiritual responsibilities as fathers and husbands. May God give us great women who know how to use their godly lure to bring these men back into focus, into being the leaders that will bring the next generation to the Promised Land of the World to Come. "It is the had that rocks the cradle that rules the world"!